So, I totally broke through my perfectionism! Happy release! This is so powerful…
My perfectionism was very specific: for me it meant that I could not fail, not that I would do everything perfectly.
Well, what does it mean “to fail”?
For everyone, these words mean something different, while the consequences can be fairly similar.
Self-torture, pushy for others, taking too much time for things that are not worth it.
In the end, it can thus bring you the opposite effect of holding you back from being the best you can be.
What is the underlying purpose of your perfectionism?
If you ask yourself that question, it could be something along the lines of: to ensure I succeed.
So then be brutally honest with yourself:
- How is this busy work I am doing now to dot all the i’s and stroke all the t’s helping me in my long-term vision of success?
- What do I really need to do to be successful?
- What are the people I consider successful doing that I am not yet doing?
- What other ways & examples are there to succeed without messing up myself or the relationship with others?
Or, you ask yourself that question, and the answer is: to ensure I am safe.
Again, be brutally honest with yourself:
- How do I know this busy work I am doing now to dot all the i’s and stroke all the t’s is really keeping me safe?
- Let’s stop those films and audios I run in my head when I do not feel safe: they are not real.
- When is it that I feel safe and what other ways are there to feel safe more often?
- What are the people I feel safe with doing that I am not yet doing?
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